http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/ Seperated or looking at a Divorce, so are many parents. Help with ideas, options, and what you may except in your new future of parenting as a broken family. en Tue, 07 Sep 2010 16:13:03 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/ http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17151&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 05:55:48 GMT He wants a divorce. Thank God for anti anxiety medication. Im able to get some rest and function for now. It hurts. Post more tomorrow. Im... He wants a divorce. Thank God for anti anxiety medication. Im able to get some rest and function for now. It hurts.

Post more tomorrow. Im exhausted. Emotionally and physically. ]]> Divorce / Seperation Lici http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17151 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17000&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Aug 2010 16:07:35 GMT So after 8 months of trying to be "amicable" and file the divorce papers ourselves, I finally met with a lawyer yesterday. I've done all I can on the paperwork and STBX is uncooperative so I can't proceed without his help. I explained the situation with the lawyer yesterday and she thinks he is just as crazy as I do! Thank goodness! I was so afraid of what could happen.

He's been holding spousal support over my head, guilting me into agreeing to things because of his financial situation, etc. She said he would get laughed out of a courtroom if he had the balls to actually request support. She would LOVE to represent me, just to knock some common sense into this man. She also said that because he is "voluntary under employed" I should be calculating child support at double what I currently did and should be getting a few hundred dollars a month more.

A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders! I feel so good knowing that I'm not the crazy one and I've been the one being "more than fair and doing more than my fair share of things". ]]> Divorce / Seperation bchajm http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17000 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16998&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Aug 2010 00:05:44 GMT Hi all, so the end of June I had all the paperwork done for our legal separation. I had my cousin who is a lawyer review it the second week of July... Hi all, so the end of June I had all the paperwork done for our legal separation. I had my cousin who is a lawyer review it the second week of July when she was in town, and I then submitted it to the district courthouse. Two weeks later I receive word that we missed one piece of paperwork that stbx needs to sign in front of a notary. I have been trying since the end of July to get this done. Over four weeks and several trips thru town later, it still isn't done, nor does it look like it will take place for another two weeks. (Now I do have power of attorney and all but am pretty sure that it would not be a good idea to sign paperwork for him under these circumstances.)

For someone who was in such a big old hurry to get rid of me, NOW he drags his feet??? I mean the man has been going to match.com and calling in to some place called livelinks to meet local daters all over the country. He has multiple lady friends across the USA whom he speaks with all the time. And lies to me about too. He has been very friendly and even apologized multiple times the other day when he got pissy about something and I hung up on him for a change.

So what is he up to now? Or am I just reading something into nothing? :unsure: ]]> Divorce / Seperation calooa http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16998 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16908&goto=newpost Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:51:44 GMT Ok so I am just about ready to file for divorce, we have split everything except the house (which I live in and pay the mortgage and upkeep on). We... Ok so I am just about ready to file for divorce, we have split everything except the house (which I live in and pay the mortgage and upkeep on). We have agreed to custody even which school district M will be going to next year. I want to get the legalzoom forms and just get divorced legally and come back to visit any issues as they arise and he has agreed to that. Has anyone done it this way and have there been any problems down the line that I should know about? ]]> Divorce / Seperation coffeemom12 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16908 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16840&goto=newpost Mon, 02 Aug 2010 16:24:04 GMT Hi to everyone! I am new here, spent the first couple days reading and checking this place out. Seems like an awesome place. I was wondering if... Hi to everyone! I am new here, spent the first couple days reading and checking this place out. Seems like an awesome place.

I was wondering if there were any other World of Warcraft Widows on here? My ex has missed several years of our oldest son's most precious moments, and many of our 1 year old daughter's as well. I have had to plan our life around that game, and no more now! I cannot stress how much I dislike this game. My ex spent anywhere from 5-12 hours a day playing this freaking game.

Before he started playing WOW, he was a binge drinker and a compulsive gambler. So at first (being naive) I thought this game was good for him, get him into more constructive hobbies. I was wrong. He simply jumped from one addiction to the next.

Anyways, just wondering if anyone on this forum has experienced the same thing! Or something similar!!! ]]> Divorce / Seperation CoffeeQueen http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16840 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16797&goto=newpost Wed, 28 Jul 2010 07:20:07 GMT Hi guys, It has been a long time since i have been on here.To say that alot has happened is an understatement..The good news as that i get divorced... Hi guys, It has been a long time since i have been on here.To say that alot has happened is an understatement..The good news as that i get divorced in 6 days and the money stuff is all done..i think i will need a whole page to tell you guys about the last 7 months.I got a restraining order after he went to were my son was visiting someone i have been seeing and took 6 of his friends and threatned too kill all of us and beat up my son and friend..He was charged with assult and got a 1700 dollar fine and 12 months good behaviour bond.In between all of that he was contesting the restraining order so we went off the court.I was with my son and my eldest son and my friend.He bought 14 people with him including my 3rd youngest son who was not meant to be there.He had his guys set out in each corner and when he got his oppertunity he started a fight with us.I have never seen so may cops come so qucik.My friend ended up with ripped shirt black eyes same with one of my sons.The other son got punched in the mouth.They cleared the court and the judge got us in and she ajourned it until july the 7th,and told him that if he bought anyone with him he would be going to jail and she would make sure he would get 2 years for everyone he bought.
Then off we go on the 7th july and he didnt show up at all,so we got our restraning orders.
The cops are still investgating the court incident and they have 4 guys to get to charge people over it.
As a result of his studidity he now has a criminal record and his daughter wont have anything to do with him at all.
Since my youngest son witnessed all of the fight at court he hasnt contacted me at all.
The judge that i had on july 7th was the judge that was there when the fight happened and she said that when he gets older he will realise what his father has done and that he is under his infulence and he cannot make up his own mind because his father has him brained washed at the moment,she siad to hang in there he will come around.
Me im doing alot better now.My kids are all well and the worst is behind us.Im moving back to wangaratta to be with my family in november so i cannot wait for that.
I feel like he tried his hardest to break me but it didnt work.he beat up his sons while trying to prove a point?????
That is the short version of it..
Glad to be back missed you guys,Hope you are all well.... ]]> Divorce / Seperation aussie33r5 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16797 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16784&goto=newpost Mon, 26 Jul 2010 19:56:10 GMT He didn't show!! I am so happy. The divorce and parenting plan were granted by default. I feel like a weight has lifted off my shoulders. I was told of course that he could file to have it set aside if he had a good reason, but that not caring or the desire to be difficult were not good reasons! Now I can focus on the future and building a new happier life! ]]> Divorce / Seperation ane26 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16784 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16775&goto=newpost Mon, 26 Jul 2010 02:00:20 GMT so...he got served today. he called to talk about my monthly expenses on the court fee waiver form. idk if he was supposed to get that or not. he... so...he got served today. he called to talk about my monthly expenses on the court fee waiver form. idk if he was supposed to get that or not. he pointed out one thing, that i put too little on. idk what i was thinking, cuz it's more. he saw my monthly take home pay and said how that was more than enough to save up for my own place. but, it's not. that monthly expenses didn't include the car payment or things that just come up. =/ so, he said how his mom saw the papers (who works at a legal firm as a legal secretary), and said how it was obvious that i didn't have a lawyer. i knew that and admitted it. i can't afford one, but he's sayin' how i better get one. sooo, wondered if anyone knew of a lawyer that would do it at no or little cost? =S he also said how he was gonna find out a way, that i'll HAVE to pay the court fee. =/ ugh! i already knew he was gonna make this difficult, but it still sucks. =/ bleh. ]]> Divorce / Seperation kalasiana http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16775 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16748&goto=newpost Fri, 23 Jul 2010 02:47:22 GMT So my husband moved out about a month ago. Our marriage was so dysfunctional that, all in all, I know it needed to happen and I actually thought I... So my husband moved out about a month ago. Our marriage was so dysfunctional that, all in all, I know it needed to happen and I actually thought I would be relieved. But I think I was living with crazy for so long that I have no frigging clue how to function as normal anymore. I keep it together to get through the workday everyday, and when I get my daughter and get home, get us through the evening with some semblance of normalcy (though she's eating even more mac & cheese than before!) But I feel like I'm just going through the motions, and when it's all said and done, I can't get myself through anything but the bare minimum. We're all (humans and pets) fed and basically clean and go where we need to go and that's about it. I think maybe I've been working so freaking hard to hold everything together for so long that now that it's fallen apart I've taken an extended mental vacation, but it's not what I'm used to. Maybe the problem is that I HAVE been working so hard for so long, I feel like I just don't have it in me right now to keep going. It has GOT to pass. I can't afford for it not to. ]]> Divorce / Seperation Mama Swan http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16748 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16744&goto=newpost Thu, 22 Jul 2010 18:36:25 GMT But...I'm pissed.


My ex's attorney/and my ex have badgered me into a hole with a crappy settlement threatening to go to court if I don't take what they are willing to give me all because of the unemployment thing. My attorney said I'd most likely be fine and I have a good case but like anything its always up to the judge. I can't afford anymore attorney fee's and going to court would be another 8-10 grand. So, I signed.

I'm getting allot less child support, allot less alimony and he's refusing to give me my dvd collection because I won't uninstall the photo software he gave me for my computer, which he also is claiming is his. But luckily it was bought before we were married.

What bothers me the most is he's claiming he can't find my jewelry armoire still. Its a 3 1/2 foot tall wooden jewelry box that I kept beside our bed...yeah it just flew away. It has my grandmothers on both sides jewelry that they handled down to me before they died. Things my mother passed down to me...stuff I wanted to give my daughter. I know its just stuff. But...it hurts.

Is there anything I can do to get it back? Now that the settlement papers are signed can I go to his place with a police officer and look? I have 30 days to go and get what he has boxed up of my things. But I'm sure he expects me to give him notice. Should I just show up?

I'm so happy to be free...I really am. Just wish he wasn't so childish about things that belonged to me. He knows how much they mean to me...which is probably why he's doing this. ]]> Divorce / Seperation CherryBlossomMama http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16744 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16697&goto=newpost Mon, 19 Jul 2010 05:43:36 GMT sorry for all the posts! i just wanna get opinions. =P should i not talk to my stbx? well, i refuse to talk to him on the phone or see him in... sorry for all the posts! i just wanna get opinions. =P
should i not talk to my stbx? well, i refuse to talk to him on the phone or see him in person anymore, but we txt, or e-mail. he's kinda lost it a few times, that resorted to this way of communication. anyway, one of my friend's tells me i shouldn't even contact him anymore, cuz he just complains to me about things. he has a pity party all the time and is just always negative. i feel bad to ignore him, cuz he says i'm the only person he ever really talks to. i'm the only person he ever confided in. sometimes when he's really down (and i'm pretty sure he's been drinking), he'll tell me how much i've hurt him, and how horrible i am and just negative/mean things. he's VERY unstable. anyway, idk. i don't wanna abandon him, since he says i'm the only one he can talk to. his parents are there for him and i guess some friends, but he says how none of what they say means anything to him. i'm apparently the only one that matters. i've said how he relies too much on me, but he insists he doesn't. i've come to realize, too, that he mainly focuses on my looks, which he also insists isn't true. but, it is. that's the main thing he always brings up about what he'll miss or what he won't find in someone else. i feel he doesn't even care/love the kids as much. i'm his #1. he has me on this high pedestal. it's sad for the kids, cuz he refuses to see em. he says how he doesn't wanna be a "part time dad". it's bs.
ok, now i'm rambling. i've kept some of his threatening e-mails, but he hasn't done that in a while. aaanyway, yeah...your thoughts? ]]> Divorce / Seperation kalasiana http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16697 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16692&goto=newpost Sun, 18 Jul 2010 16:52:53 GMT ok. so, i'm gonna call a processor server tomorrow to serve my stbx, but he's not home right now, and won't be till the weekend. will the papers still get served or should i wait until i know he's home? also, will they take care of the papers proving they served the papers, or do i need to provide that?
on a completely diff note...can you msg ppl directly on here? i haven't found that option. =P ]]> Divorce / Seperation kalasiana http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16692 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16688&goto=newpost Sun, 18 Jul 2010 13:16:58 GMT I got a default hearing date of 7/26! I have a quick question though. In the event that he does show up what will happen? Will the judge still hear... I got a default hearing date of 7/26! I have a quick question though. In the event that he does show up what will happen? Will the judge still hear both sides? I've heard that no, he wont carry much weight in court due to his negligence, but also I was told that the courts do like to base decisions on merit, which I understand. That is fine with me, since I am actually curious how he would convince a judge to give him more than what we are offering him with all the abuse and such, although it would be sooo much easier if he wasn't there (wishful thinking). I guess my real question is what are the odds of this court date officially ending the marriage. Also, he is acting pro se if that makes a difference. Thanks in advance!

ETA- He has not completed any paperwork, no separation agreement, no parenting plan, I don't believe he will. (it would be too much work I'm sure!). ]]> Divorce / Seperation ane26 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16688 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16672&goto=newpost Sat, 17 Jul 2010 01:17:44 GMT Well, it looks like the Florida judicial system is going to put the screws to her...

Got 2 letters from the clerk's office today.
#1 was the court order for the mandatory Parenting Stabilization class...I knew it was required and already have my scheduled for next weekend. It has to be done in my county unless she wants to ask the judge otherwise.

#2 was the order for the referral to the General Magistrate to handle any and all issues. Due to her default, I's all good on that front.

Now, the interesting thing, I included info on the ongoing guardianship issue in a different state regarding our son, The UCCJEA form was completed and it looks like this could get really interesting if Florida decides to claim jurisdiction over my Son because of the divorce while Indiana has claimed jurisdiction because the grandparents are trying to take guardianship.

At least in Florida with the General Magistrate rather than a Judge presiding, my final court date will be sooner and my freedom will be granted quicker! And, if all goes well, my son will be back in my care where he belongs and not where his mother put him to keep me from getting custody.

now the only thing left besides the class is get the court to order her to produce financials to calculate the child support she will be paying!

I could be free and clear before Labor Day if all goes well!

:cool: ]]> Divorce / Seperation DaddyCakes http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16672 http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16659&goto=newpost Fri, 16 Jul 2010 03:47:50 GMT so, i filed for the divorce, but need to serve him the papers. i can't do it myself. it has to be someone 18+. any suggestions on who or where to go? i called family court services, who said to call the sheriff, who said they don't provide that service anymore. =/ so, i'm at a loss of who to ask. i don't wanna ask any friends or family, because i'm worried he might start somethin' w/ em. ]]> Divorce / Seperation kalasiana http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php?t=16659